Train Up a Child Tuesday : The Introduction

I’m so excited to introduce a new monthly feature – Train Up a Child Tuesday! Every month, Anna Bachelder from Train Up a Child will share an article related to motherhood, raising a child, or a related topic. I’ve known Anna for a few years (we used to attend the same church), but I’ve only recently gotten to know her better through her Facebook group and her business. We worked together earlier this month to sleep train Charlotte, which was a roller coaster experience that I will write about next month! I wanted to have Anna post here each month to give people a new perspective on parenting and to give everyone a monthly break from hearing me talk. 😉 Take it away, Anna!

After my daughter was born like any parent, my entire life was turned upside down. My heart was softened, my emotions were all over the place, and my hormones I don’t think will ever be the same. I could not believe how amazing this little baby was to me, and how different I was after having her. See I have worked with kids, mostly ages 6 weeks to 5 years old since I was old enough to baby sit. Every job I have had since I was 16 has been working with children, except a 2 year sales job where I was pretty much miserable. I worked as a nanny for several different families, worked in day cares, after school programs, I have a degree in elementary education and I taught kindergarten for a few years; anything you can imagine with kids, I’ve done. So I was as prepared as I could be for this mom thing, but being a mom was so different. Now I was the one setting the stage, setting the schedule, buying the clothes, and the one responsible for this sweet little life that I wanted to be perfect in every way. Of course I knew that wasn’t possible, but as close as I could get is what I wanted.

I went back to work after 3 months and after about 2 months I decided that I had to stay home with my daughter. Our families financial situation was changing to allow that to happen and I just couldn’t bear the thought of missing that much of her day every day. It was just not in me to spend all that time with other people’s children, while my own was getting taken care of by someone else. When I started to stay home I of course started hanging out with other stay at home moms and knew that God was stirring up something in me, I felt he had something for me, but I just wasn’t sure what it was yet. I decided to start a mom’s group on Facebook called “Mama’s Village” (which anyone is welcome to join) where mamas can give and get advice without judgement and where I would give little tips and advice of my own about once a week.

This started to unfold into a ministry for me and I was able to use all of my education and experience to help moms and children that needed and wanted my help. I started getting some serious testimonies and results, so I thought I should go ahead and dive into what I felt God had just unfolded before me and start “Train Up a Child”. “Train Up a Child” is such a ministry to me and so much fun and so rewarding for me. I get to help people with one of the most precious gifts and treasures God has given them and watch their children and parents blossom into all they can be! What a privilege and honor!

Train up a Child has unfolded into a full program of materials from prenatal to 5 years old. We start with day one of baby being born and take you all the way to kindergarten. This information is not just made up, but it is researched and if the program is followed, has always been successful. We give you coaching and material to get you through the newborn stage of schedules and routines and understanding what a newborn needs and then take you to the baby stage and the developmental changes that occur, and transitioning to solid foods, then to the dreaded toddler stage and how and when to deal with discipline, then go into ages 3-5 and the developmental hurdles that occur, along with academic prep and making sure they are ready for kindergarten. We also help get baby to sleep through the night at any stage they are in from about 4 months to 2 years old. God has just designed this from beginning to end and I stand amazed at what he has done and how he has allowed me to use my gifts and experience to help families with their most prized possession, their children.

If you are interested in the program or want more information, feel free to email me at annabachelder@trainupachild.care or check out my website – trainupachild.care – where you can check out testimonials and learn more about what I do.

Thanks, Anna! If anyone has parenting questions or topics they would like to see Anna write about, leave a comment or contact me!

Enjoy Your Journey

Today was the first day of school in my county. My Facebook and Instagram feeds were filled with posts and pictures that all shared a common theme : “I can’t believe how fast time is going.”

Since Charlotte had been pretty restless all night and decided to give us a 4:30 AM wake up call, it seems so hard for me to think about time going quickly, but I know it does. She is learning new skills daily and approaching milestones that seemed like far away concepts just a few days ago.

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This is what a rough morning looks like…

Part of me wishes that she would stay little; she’s so sweet and affectionate (when she wants to be!), and it’s fun watching her interact with the world around her. However, the bigger part of me is looking forward to seeing her grow and develop as a person. I’m curious to see what her personality will be like. I want to be able to talk to her and have her respond back to me with more than just a couple of words or random babble. And, let’s be real here, I really, really, really look forward to the days when her sleep is more consistent (when she’s about, what, 20 or 25? Ha!).

But, I’m not going to wish this time away. I’m going to attempt to savor every moment – good and bad. We are not having more children so every phase we go through is the first and last time we will experience those things as parents. I’m going to work on enjoying the journey because before I know it, we’ll be sending out high school graduation invitations, and I’ll be trying to remember what life was like when she was little. Enjoy your journey. Even the not-so-enjoyable parts have a purpose, and one day, they will be what you miss.

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Charlotte’s Twelve Month Update

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And just like that, our baby is a year old! People tell you how fast it flies by, but you can’t really understand it until you’ve lived it!

Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches
at twelve months: 28.5 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz
at twelve months: 18 lb 8 oz

Clothing Size: 9 months and up!

Milestones:
– She turned one. That seems like the biggest milestone of all!

Likes: Playing with her toys, snuggling with mama in the bed, seeing her friends at Circletime 😉

Dislikes: Being told no! I think we’re in trouble…

Sleep: Pretty decent for the most part. She takes a couple of naps a day that are hit or miss but usually sleeps through the night. I almost always wake up with a foot in my face though!

Best Moment: Seeing her eat her big cupcake on her birthday! It was so cute!!

Worst Moment: Getting her one-year vaccines and having an upset stomach at her doctor appointment yesterday. I know that’s past her twelve-month mark, but it was rough!

Eating: Anything we put in front of her! I always know when she doesn’t feel well because she doesn’t want to eat!

Mommy Update: I really am starting to enjoy motherhood. The first few months were really tough, and a lot of the time, I wondered if I was cut out for it. I know I’ll wonder that many, many more times during her lifetime, but I feel like we’ve gotten to know each other better, and I’m trying to trust my instincts more often.

Overall: This is my last monthly update. I thought about doing them for the next couple of years, but I think I’ll close the door on these and do something else fun on here as she grows up. I hope that she’ll read these someday and know how much her dad and I love her!

We love you, our strong, brave, smart, beautiful, baby girl!

Charlotte’s Eleven Month Update

So how about that nearly 3 week absence, huh? My husband has a new job with a different schedule than his last couple of jobs, so I’ve been working on new life routines, and this fell to the wayside. But, now I’m back…back again…Amber’s back…tell a friend (bonus points if you know what song that’s from…)

Now, let’s move on to the important stuff – Charlotte!

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Google Photos automatically created this collage. I think it gives her a bit of a sullen, bored teenager look, don’t you think?

Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz

Clothing Size: 9 months and up!

Milestones:
– We’re on tooth watch, 2017. It feels like she’s been teething for about 40 years, but none of them have popped through yet. It will be a glorious day when the first one does. Plus, if she realizes that teeth = getting to try more foods, then she’ll be a happy girl!

-She moved backwards some when she was on her stomach/hands and knees. It wasn’t quite crawling, but it was progress!

-I think she can say “my mama”. At least, that’s what it sounds like to me!

-She is pretty decent at picking up foods and feeding herself and is getting better at using her spoon. She also got some of her puffs out of the container one day when I held it up to her. Of course, that obviously means she’s a super genius! 😉

Likes: Going places (such a little charmer!), sitting in her pack and play and watching the weather while eating snacks (that’s my girl!), and pulling Koopa’s ears!

Dislikes: Not being allowed to chew on my phone, when we don’t give her back the things she throws on the floor (like spoons and napkins), scrambled eggs – my parents have fed them to her a couple of times and said that she didn’t enjoy them at all. I think this is the only food she hasn’t loved!

Sleep: Still co-sleeping and still (mostly) sticking to a routine. Most of the time, she sleeps through the night, but sometimes girlie needs a midnight snack…and not just a bottle!

Best Moment: There have been a few times when she has pulled me near her to give me a kiss or snuggle up next to me, and I have just completely melted!

Worst Moment: We’ve had a couple of middle-of-the-night wakeups that have gone from “hmm, she’s a little upset” to “whoa, she’s having a complete meltdown.” I think the incoming tooth is really bothering her, and then once she wakes up, she’ll realize that she’s hungry and super tired. I know that she can’t really communicate what’s wrong yet, so that makes things even tougher!

Eating: She is starting to like “real food” more than her baby food. She’ll still eat baby food most of the time, but she also wants something that she can pick up with her fingers and feed herself with. She’s also becoming good at stealing things off our plates!

Mommy Update: I’m feeling more confident as a mom, especially as I’m starting to focus more on just being in whatever moment we’re in and enjoying it. These 11 months have flown by, so I want to make sure I’m soaking everything in as much as possible!

Overall: She has such a great personality and is really starting to develop her own little quirks and habits. It’s been so fun seeing her grow and become more of her own little person!

We love you, baby girl!

Charlotte’s Ten Month Update

Charlotte’s Ten Month Update

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Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz

Clothing Size: Pretty much exclusively 6 months and up. I accidentally put a 3-6 month onesie on her the other day, and her little arms looked like they were losing their circulation! Needless to say we took that one off pretty quickly and tossed it into the consignment bin!

Milestones:
– Doing so much better with sitting up by herself!

-She can go backwards in her walker like a champ!

-She seems to be talking more and saying more words, like “hiiiii” (she always drags it out like that!)

Likes: Blowing spit bubbles, grabbing things, being tossed into the air

Dislikes: Falling asleep by herself, staying in bed by herself, being put down by herself, sense a pattern here?

Sleep: We’re really getting good with our routine and making sure she’s in bed within a certain time frame. We’re still co-sleeping, and sometimes I’m okay with that (when she’s snuggly and sweet) and sometimes I’m very, very, very ready to do some sleep training (when she’s pulling my hair to wake me up).

Best Moment: Honestly, nothing stands out to me here. She’s such a happy girl, and I’m enjoying seeing her learn new things!

Worst Moment: Nothing stands out to me here either! Phew!

Eating: Everything she can get her hands on – both food and non-food! She loves peanut butter (like her doggie brother!), and there’s only been a handful of things that she hasn’t attacked with enthusiasm.

Mommy Update: I’m working on not being so hard on myself, and some days I am succeeding. I’m working more on routines, plus I’ve asked for help in some weak areas in my life, so I hope that helps me climb out of this pit of meh.

Overall: It’s crazy to think that we’re quickly approaching her first birthday! I look at updates from last year, and I was so nervous about becoming a mom, so curious about what she would be like, and so anxious about how our life was about to change. Now it feels like she’s always been a part of our family!

We love you, baby girl!