Well that title doesn’t seem very optimistic, does it?
When I was rushing driving to work the other day, I took a back road since I was coming from a different part of town. During this drive, I passed a cemetery and saw people gathered around a grave saying their final goodbyes. Death doesn’t seem very optimistic, but allow me to try to tie this in to my optimism theme. We’re all going to die, and none of us know how or when it is going to happen. So, with that in mind, how do you want to spend your days on this earth? Do you want to be frazzled and sad, or do you want to be inspired and hopeful? I know that I don’t always reflect those second two, but it’s amazing how much better my outlook on everything is when I’m working to be positive and happy.
How do you want people to remember you? Do you want them to tell stories about how grumpy you were, or do you want them to remember what a happy, inspiring person you were? I think the choice is pretty clear here!
If you know me in real life, then you know I can be a bit challenged when it comes to time management. I usually am running 5 or 10 minutes behind to everything, even if I plan ahead and intend to leave early. As a result, I often feel frazzled and rushed. Being frazzled is not a good recipe for optimism. You start getting frustrated at every little thing that makes you later or more frazzled. Minor traffic annoyances make you launch into Hulk-level rage…not that I would know anything about that…
On days when I’m on top of things and don’t feel frazzled, I feel like I can take over the world! There are so many resources available to help with time management and organization, and I need to check them out for my sanity and for everyone around me. And just FYI, if you see a frazzled looking girl driving towards my work, watch out!
Don’t you love unexpected gifts? This morning, my mom told me to go get a Starbucks drink on her so I could start my day happy. It was such a little thing (her account has a ridiculous amount on it right now! Guess what she got for her birthday? Ha!), but it meant so much to me, especially since I’ve been feeling kind of blah lately. Getting little gifts like that always makes me so happy. My secondary love language is Receiving Gifts, so it’s no surprise that it makes me happy! (Sidenote, I know that some people don’t believe in love languages or think it’s silly, but I think it’s completely legit! My primary language is Acts of Service, which explains why I’m ridiculously happy when a certain husband does my chores on his day off!).
Giving someone a gift doesn’t just make them happy, though. It also makes you happy and makes your outlook a little brighter. It gets you out of your head (which can be a scary place sometimes!) and makes you think about someone else. It doesn’t have to be anything big; even a little note of encouragement can be a great gift for someone! So, if you’re feeling kind of meh or just want to have a little bit brighter day, give a gift! Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to think of someone to give a gift to! 🙂
This project was supposed to inspire me (and anyone who happens to be reading) to be more positive and more optimistic. Instead, I seem to be heading in the opposite direction. I am cranky, negative, pessimistic, short-tempered, and just feeling blue overall. The worst part is that I really just want to wallow in it instead of trying to do something about it or use some of the techniques that I’ve already written about.
How do you overcome these feelings? Should I just put on my big girl undies (like the ones I wrote about on October 18) and get over it? Does anyone have any tips for getting yourself back on the optimism track? I would appreciate any feedback because I’m starting to feel alone over here!