Happy Monday, everyone! I’m running late on this post because we had such a nice weekend that I spent more time outside than at the computer!
February is the month of love, so this month’s TBB Asks post is all about relationships!
1. Who is your oldest friend/how did you meet? If we’re talking a friend who is in my family, then I would say it’s definitely my mom, and we all know how she and I met! 😉 If it’s a non-relative, then it’s my friend Jen! She and I have known each other half of our lives now (that’s right, isn’t it, Jen?). We knew of each other before we knew each other since her mom and my grandma worked together, but we didn’t officially meet until our freshman year of college when we had such lovely classes as Honors Critical Thinking (blah) and Intro to Computers (hahahaha).
2. Tell us about your circle of support. Who are your people? I have a small circle because I don’t like to rely on people or ask for help a lot. I know, I know. My husband is definitely the number one person in my circle. He knows how to get me out of a funky mood or give me a kick in the butt when I need one! My other people are my mom and our friend Ashli. We have a massive group text going and try to get together monthly. They know all of the good and bad things going on and can help me get through both types of situations!
3. How did you meet your partner? I met him at a college and career singles event at the church we both used to attend. Check out our full “how we met” story here!
4. How is Valentine’s Day celebrated in your home? We usually don’t really celebrate because we’re boring. However, now that Charlotte is getting a little older and more aware of holidays, I feel like I need to hop on Pinterest and start thinking of some cute ways to celebrate!
5. What is your love language? Acts of Service, which is fitting because Will is really great about doing things around the house and taking care of things I put off or don’t want to do (like taking my car through emissions! I really don’t like doing that!).
6. Do you prefer receiving flowers or chocolates? The part of me that’s not trying to eat healthier says chocolates, but the part of me that is trying to lose weight reluctantly says flowers!
7. What is the most meaningful gift you have ever received or have given? It wasn’t for Valentine’s Day, but after we found out Charlotte was a girl and it looked like the pregnancy was healthy and viable, Will got me a couple of beads for my Pandora bracelet. One bead was a little blue stone to represent our first pregnancy since we called that baby our blueberry. The other bead was a little pink stone to represent Charlotte. I wear them on opposite ends of my bracelet to represent both of my kids! 💕
I’m a couple of days late on this linkup (seems to be my common theme this week), but today I’m joining The Blended Blog’s latest prompt – What Love Looks Like.
During Valentine’s Day, people tend to focus on romantic love. Romantic love is probably the most popular thing that comes to mind when people think about love, but it is not the only way to show love.
Love can have many faces. It can look like support from a friend – old or new – when times are difficult.
It can look like rallying together to help someone in your community who is in need.
It can look like getting up multiple times during the night to help your child get back to sleep if she is having a bad dream or can’t get comfortable.
It can look like taking your dog outside when it is pouring buckets, only to have him sniff around instead of doing what you thought he needed to do. (Hmm, is that an oddly specific example or what?).
It can look like celebrating the good fortune of someone in your life, even when things aren’t going so great in your own life.
It can look like spending your only day off helping your child and her family get settled into their new house.
It can look like so many things, but we have to learn to recognize it. When I was single, I wondered if I would ever get married. I sometimes worried that I would be “unloved” forever. This was a bit narrow-minded on my part though because I was already surrounded by love; I just didn’t see it because I was focused on a certain type of love. If that sounds familiar to you, then I urge you to take a look at your life and see what types of friendships and relationships that you have developed and could cultivate more. I know that I’m guilty of neglecting friendships, so I’m missing out on a type of love in my life. That sounds kind of weird to say, but it’s part of what makes me a complete person.
Honestly, I’m not sure how to end this post. This was a bit of a tough concept for me to think about, and it’s difficult to write about this when I have been married for a while and see love daily. I guess I just want to say that if you feel lonely or unloved, please reach out to someone. I’ll be glad to be a listening ear if you’d like. There are so many people who go through their lives thinking they are alone, but they don’t need to be. Look for love, and if you can’t find it, create it because love can look like anything that you want it to.
What does love look like to you? Leave a comment and let me know…or help me figure out a better ending to this post! 😉
Once again, I’m a couple of days behind on this one, but it’s such a neat idea that I want to participate. Better late than never (which is my life motto too…).
This month’s prompt is 10 memories with my spouse – seems pretty appropriate for Valentine’s Day, right?
1. The first time we met
We met at a singles group event at a church we both attended at the time. The event was at a coffee shop, and I went with my brother. In retrospect, that probably made us seem like a couple. My brother and I were sitting at a table at the front of the coffee shop, and one of the group leaders told me that he had someone he wanted me to meet. He brought Will over to me, and although we only talked for a couple of minutes, we both realized that we were a lot alike and hit it off! It only took him 4 months to ask me on a date… 😉
2. Our first date
Our first date was 7 years ago today! That’s right…our first date was on Valentine’s Day! No pressure, right? While we were eating dinner, a man in the restaurant proposed to his girlfriend. Our waiter said something about how we would be next, and I yelled “NO!!” I had to tell the poor waiter that it was just our first date because he was mortified after that! After we had dinner, we walked around a bookstore for a while. We were both trying to think of places to go to make the date last longer, but it was a work night, and there wasn’t a lot open. I think we both knew it would be the first of many dates!
3. The night before we got engaged
The Nashville Predators were in the playoffs in May 2012, and I won free tickets. Will and I went to the game on May 4, 2012. We had a good time, but unfortunately they lost the game. He and I were supposed to have pictures made the next day as part of an adoption fundraiser for a family at a friend’s church (wow, that sentence sounds so convoluted!). When we were in the parking garage trying to leave, we got into a small argument that led to him going the wrong way and bumping into a column. I was so frustrated that I said “do you even want to go take the stupid pictures tomorrow?” He calmed me down and assured me that yes, he did want to go take the pictures still. It’s a good thing I listened to him…
4. The day we got engaged
We got engaged during our “stupid pictures!” Yeah, I definitely didn’t see that one coming! We were at a park, and it was pretty warm outside, so I was tired of taking pictures. The photographer asked if there were any more poses that we wanted before our session was finished. I said no, but Will said there was one more he wanted. He then proceeded to get the ring out and propose! Ahhh!!! I’m so glad that we have that moment captured! It will be fun to tell Charlotte about it when she’s older!
5. Our wedding day
There were so many memories from that day (including spending waaaaay too much on makeup), but this picture captures one of my favorite memories/moments, which was right after he pronounced us husband and wife! This picture was one that one of my uncles took, and I love it because it shows the relief and excitement I felt after the ceremony was over!
6. Playing paintball
About a month after we got married, we went with my brother, one of my cousins, and a couple of our friends to play paintball. It was my first time playing, so I had no idea what to expect. It was fun…and painful! It was one of our first outings as a married couple and a time that I tried something that I was a little bit scared to do. Sadly, we haven’t played again since then. Also, I can’t remember the last time I tried something that I was a little bit scared to do. Hmmm…
7. Getting our doggo
I wrote about Koopa in Monday’s Love Stories post, so check that out if you want to know the story of how we adopted him. I remember getting the call that we could come pick him up. I also remember Will riding in the back seat with him because we weren’t sure how he would handle being back there on his own. He was so cute stretched out back there next to Will. I wish we had taken pictures!
8. Finding out our second pregnancy was a healthy one
In June 2015, we experienced a miscarriage, and in August 2015, I found out that I was pregnant again. I called the doctor’s office, and they wanted me to come in for a viability scan after I was at least 6 weeks along. The wait between that phone call and that visit was such a long one! The appointment was scheduled for the Tuesday after Labor Day, and on Labor Day, we were at a cookout celebrating a wedding that had happened earlier that weekend. I remember talking to the new bride, her mother-in-law, and a couple of other women there about how scared I was to go to the appointment and how much I hoped things would be okay. The next day when we saw Charlotte for the first time and confirmed that there was a heartbeat and things looked like they were supposed to, we were ecstatic! I think I even hugged the tech! That was definitely a great memory, especially after such a sad start to our summer.
9. Finding out we were having a girl!
A couple of months into my pregnancy, I found a place in Nashville that did early ultrasounds for gender reveals. My insurance wouldn’t let me have an ultrasound until I was 20 weeks along, but this place did them around 16 weeks. I know 4 weeks doesn’t seem like a huge deal, but when you’re pregnant and wondering what you’re having, it feels like an eternity! Our appointment was on a Saturday, and we had planned to have dinner with our families that night to reveal the gender to them. When the ultrasound tech told us it was a girl, we were so excited! We left the facility and immediately went shopping for baby girl clothes! We made a little scratch off as a cute way to reveal the gender to our moms. The scratch offs were cards with blue and pink paint, and they had to scratch it to see if we were having a little Batman or Wonder Woman. Our moms decided that one of them would scratch the blue one and the other one would scratch the pink one – except the pink one wouldn’t come off! Oops! Luckily, they figured it out with the “try again” message that was under the blue one!
10. Becoming parents
Last but definitely not least was our memory from nearly two years ago when Charlotte joined our family! I’ve never really blogged about the whole labor experience, but I did write it down in a book for her to read when she’s older. The short version is that the hospital sent me home that morning, and Will and my mom made me keep walking around that day and evening. I was so sore and tired! We also went to a Mexican restaurant to see if the whole tale about eating spicy food really helped. I can’t say if it did or not, but it did give me horrible heartburn that made me have to take overpriced hospital medicine! Our lives changed so much that day, and we will never be those young, fresh-faced, skinny people that we were in our engagement picture, and that’s okay! We have gone through so much together – good and bad – and we have grown because of it.
Happy Valentine’s Day, babe! Sometimes you frustrate the heck out of me, and sometimes I don’t like you very much, but I love you so much, and I wouldn’t trade you for anything…most of the time! 😉
She doesn’t care if people knows she’s turning 50. Life’s too short to try to hide your age.
She also doesn’t care that people have made fun of her football team for years…and this may actually be their year…
She managed to keep me alive when I was a baby, even though she and my dad were really young.
Plus, she managed to keep me alive when I was a teenager, even though I probably deserved to be smacked in the mouth…a lot…
She sat through all of those crappy plays I was in during elementary school. Yep, even the one where I was a moth in the underworld. Let that one sink in for a moment.
She also sat through all of my plays in college, usually multiple times, so I would always have someone in the audience to cheer for me.
She was a rock for me when my husband and I lost our first baby.
She also brought us a lot of groceries then, including Oreos. Oreos make sadness a little better.
She is teaching me the fine art of calling someone a putz.
I don’t have to fight against her when I see change on the ground. It’s always mine!
She always gave me a bite of her food…
…Even her steak…want a bite of my steak?
We have so many silly inside jokes like that, and it confuses people…usually the men in our family!
She has an entire room that my dad converted into a closet for her, and I can borrow anything in there, anytime I want…or whenever it’ll finally fit me again!
She taught me to always speak my mind, even if I’m not always good at that.
She always tells me the truth, even when I don’t want to hear it.
She is an upstanding member of the community.
Her coffee addiction usually results in free Starbucks for me!
Hearing her argue with people on the phone is usually the highlight of my week. I’m not even half as good as her at it!
Snap, snap, Sebastian.
She’s way cooler than I’ll ever be. Charlotte may not have a cool mom, but her grandma rocks!
She taught me that I was not a bad person to let other people watch Charlotte when she was a newborn. Sleep is important!
She took me to my first concert, NKOTB!
She took me to my most recent concert, Chris Stapleton! (Okay, technically, her other daughter and I took her, but it didn’t flow as well that way).
She’s warping her other daughter so much that sometimes I forget she hasn’t been in our family her entire life! 😉
She reluctantly accepts Koopa as her granddog (well, maybe not, but it’s on the Internet now, so it has to be true).
I can ask dumb questions and sometimes not get made fun of…hahahaha.
She always encouraged me to read.
She has always told me that I can do anything and be anything I want to be.
But, she’s been realistic too. She made sure I never tried out for American Idol, So You Think You Can Dance, or any show that requires any physical talents…
She spends her free time doing mundane things for me, like cleaning up my yard…in the middle of July.
She checks on Charlotte every day…
…And she checks on me daily too because this motherhood gig isn’t for the faint of heart!
I know that no one is guaranteed tomorrow, and I’m grateful to have her, especially since I know so many people who don’t have their mothers anymore.
She’s stubborn. If you tell her she can’t do something, then you better expect her to do it or die trying!
She (and my dad!) have taught me what a great marriage should look like.
She told me the truth about all of those boyfriends who I thought were the greatest thing since sliced bread (see, I’m not cool at all). If I had not eventually listened to her each time, I wouldn’t have ended up with my awesome husband!
She was the reason I got into the library field. I never would’ve imagined myself there, but it’s been a fun ride so far!
She always wants what’s best for me.
Her woman crush is P!nk. How many other people can say that about their mom?!?
She always reads my blog!
She can take a joke, even when it’s on her. Still wearing that MB shirt, ma?
There’s no one else I’d rather go to the Southern Women’s Show with. You hear that, mom, NO ONE SO DON’T EVER INVITE THAT ONE PERSON AGAIN BECAUSE SHE RUINED OUR FLOW… 😉
She showed me that you don’t have to wear 15 pounds of makeup and perfume to be beautiful.
She keeps Charlotte while my husband and I go to work, so I never have to worry about daycare costs and whether or not Charlotte is being loved and cared for.
She is the best Goodwill shopper I have ever met, hands down.
I know I can call her anytime, with any problem, and she’ll always help me.
She has always encouraged me to be goofy!
She knows that Batman is superior to Superman.
Because she’s teaching me to be an awesome mom just like her!
Happy Birthday, Mom! We love you!
*Quite a few of these can apply to other people in my life too. Don’t think I’m ignoring you or downplaying the love/good feelings/whatever I have for you, but it’s not your 50th birthday today, you selfish person/people…