Seven Sunday Sites

Someone in a Facebook group shared this post about children and sleeping on a morning after we had experienced yet another rough sleep night. It has some “language” in it, but I thought it was interesting. Takeaway quote :

Frankly if a cuddle is so important to him that he’d wake himself up hourly for it and put on a performance that completely convinces me that he’s scared and upset, he deserves one.

Along those same lines, a recent post on Nashville Moms Blog reminded me to enjoy my present situation. Get out of my brain, Internet.

Will made fancy noodles earlier this week. I’m going to one up him and make noodle cups…or he’ll outdo himself and make them before I get a chance to. 😉

USA’s first gold medal in the 2018 games was won by a 17-year-old snowboarder. Way to go!!

In other Olympic related news – take a look at Team USA’s youngest and oldest athletes. The oldest one isn’t really old, but I can’t imagine how sore he’ll be after competing!

I haven’t been reading much lately because I have been prioritizing other things. I’ve missed reading, and Stephanie’s blog post about not being herself when she’s not reading, helps me understand why. (Although, her main reasons – growing her second human and keeping up with the first human – are different than my reasons! Ha!).

This article is a few years old, but it lists 20 sayings that no longer appear on conversation hearts. Not gonna lie, I’m a little sad that they retired “Let’s Read.” Ha!

Hope you have a great week!

Using your time online to become a better mom

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I don’t think it would surprise anyone to know that I’m a little frazzled and scatterbrained.

(Seriously, just look at the tagline of this website!)

I’m also a sucker for personal development and learning opportunities.

That’s why I’m really excited to share an upcoming online conference called The Mom Conference!

https://www.theconferenceformoms.com/sign-up?affiliate_id=828247

The Mom Conference is a FREE three day online conference that features twenty speakers who will cover a variety of topics, such as…

  • Setting up routines so you have time for what’s important to you (whether it’s blogging or binge watching Netflix. #NoJudgement)
  • Keeping up with a busy household (and maybe their Netflix queues too…)
  • Making sure your kids stay safe online (with the way Charlotte can navigate my phone, I’m going to need this topic next week…haha)
  • Effectively managing depression and anxiety (come on, is there a mom who hasn’t been anxious at least once?)

These are just a few of the topics the conference will cover!

Register for FREE here

So how does an online conference work?

This one takes place next week – October 17-19 – which is Tuesday-Thursday. Every morning you’ll get an email with the links to that day’s presentations. There will be 6-7 presentations a day. You’ll then have 24 hours to watch the presentations from that day that interest you.

If there’s a presentation that you really love or you’re just not going to be able to get to all of them in such a short time frame, there is an option to purchase a basic or premium conference package that will give you access to the videos and other bonuses.

I’m the most excited to see Ruth Soukup who founded the Living Well, Spending Less website and the Elite Blog Academy. There are a few speakers who aren’t necessarily relevant to our family (like the one about how to minimize sibling rivalry – great info for some families though!), but most of the sessions look like they are going to be super helpful! You can see the list of presenters here.

The Mom Conference is also offering a free gift when you register – A free Listening Guide for Dr. Laura Markham’s interview on sibling rivalry. Get a sneak peak on the key take aways from her interview.

(I wonder if it covers how to deal with furry and human siblings…).

Make sure to sign up so you can get ready to learn and grow as a mom. Even if you only learn one thing from all of the presentations, it’ll be worth the price of admission!

Register now, then let me know which presentation sounds the most intriguing to you!

Train Up a Child Tuesday : The Introduction

I’m so excited to introduce a new monthly feature – Train Up a Child Tuesday! Every month, Anna Bachelder from Train Up a Child will share an article related to motherhood, raising a child, or a related topic. I’ve known Anna for a few years (we used to attend the same church), but I’ve only recently gotten to know her better through her Facebook group and her business. We worked together earlier this month to sleep train Charlotte, which was a roller coaster experience that I will write about next month! I wanted to have Anna post here each month to give people a new perspective on parenting and to give everyone a monthly break from hearing me talk. 😉 Take it away, Anna!

After my daughter was born like any parent, my entire life was turned upside down. My heart was softened, my emotions were all over the place, and my hormones I don’t think will ever be the same. I could not believe how amazing this little baby was to me, and how different I was after having her. See I have worked with kids, mostly ages 6 weeks to 5 years old since I was old enough to baby sit. Every job I have had since I was 16 has been working with children, except a 2 year sales job where I was pretty much miserable. I worked as a nanny for several different families, worked in day cares, after school programs, I have a degree in elementary education and I taught kindergarten for a few years; anything you can imagine with kids, I’ve done. So I was as prepared as I could be for this mom thing, but being a mom was so different. Now I was the one setting the stage, setting the schedule, buying the clothes, and the one responsible for this sweet little life that I wanted to be perfect in every way. Of course I knew that wasn’t possible, but as close as I could get is what I wanted.

I went back to work after 3 months and after about 2 months I decided that I had to stay home with my daughter. Our families financial situation was changing to allow that to happen and I just couldn’t bear the thought of missing that much of her day every day. It was just not in me to spend all that time with other people’s children, while my own was getting taken care of by someone else. When I started to stay home I of course started hanging out with other stay at home moms and knew that God was stirring up something in me, I felt he had something for me, but I just wasn’t sure what it was yet. I decided to start a mom’s group on Facebook called “Mama’s Village” (which anyone is welcome to join) where mamas can give and get advice without judgement and where I would give little tips and advice of my own about once a week.

This started to unfold into a ministry for me and I was able to use all of my education and experience to help moms and children that needed and wanted my help. I started getting some serious testimonies and results, so I thought I should go ahead and dive into what I felt God had just unfolded before me and start “Train Up a Child”. “Train Up a Child” is such a ministry to me and so much fun and so rewarding for me. I get to help people with one of the most precious gifts and treasures God has given them and watch their children and parents blossom into all they can be! What a privilege and honor!

Train up a Child has unfolded into a full program of materials from prenatal to 5 years old. We start with day one of baby being born and take you all the way to kindergarten. This information is not just made up, but it is researched and if the program is followed, has always been successful. We give you coaching and material to get you through the newborn stage of schedules and routines and understanding what a newborn needs and then take you to the baby stage and the developmental changes that occur, and transitioning to solid foods, then to the dreaded toddler stage and how and when to deal with discipline, then go into ages 3-5 and the developmental hurdles that occur, along with academic prep and making sure they are ready for kindergarten. We also help get baby to sleep through the night at any stage they are in from about 4 months to 2 years old. God has just designed this from beginning to end and I stand amazed at what he has done and how he has allowed me to use my gifts and experience to help families with their most prized possession, their children.

If you are interested in the program or want more information, feel free to email me at annabachelder@trainupachild.care or check out my website – trainupachild.care – where you can check out testimonials and learn more about what I do.

Thanks, Anna! If anyone has parenting questions or topics they would like to see Anna write about, leave a comment or contact me!

You can do anything, but you can’t do everything

I am worn out.

I wanted to start this post with a fun story about to-do lists or all of the things that women have to do in a day, but everything I wrote kept falling flat. I would reach a certain point and try to transition into talking about my main points, and the words just would stop.

So, I took that as a sign that I need to be real with everyone.

I have been struggling lately. This is a really busy time for me, and I feel a little bit overwhelmed and like I am starting not to be able to handle everything. I feel off-kilter and frazzled. And when I’m frazzled, do you know who suffers? It’s not the relative strangers and acquaintances I encounter daily.

It’s my husband.

It’s my daughter.

It’s my family.

It’s me.

I have determined one big reason why I am burnt out : I want to “do it all.”

I want to be a great wife, a fabulous mother (to the human and non-human children), a hard-working employee, a successful writer, in fantastic shape, have a spotless house, read often, cook real meals for my family, have a daily quiet time, volunteer more, clean up my blog and website, and sleep more, among other things.

Just reading that makes me tired.

So, it’s time to embrace a new life motto : I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. I have to have balance.

I recently had the chance to part of a book launch team for Finding Your Balance: An 11-Lesson Bible Study“>Finding Your Balance: An 11-Lesson Bible Study by Sandy Cooper.

(Yes, I was on two book launch teams at the same time – this one and Finish. Add that to the list above…)

I started reading the digital copy I received, and I didn’t get too far into it before I jumped online and ordered it. If you know me, then you know I don’t really buy books, but I just needed to own this one.

I haven’t read much of the book yet, and I haven’t started using it as a Bible study yet, but I’ve already gotten so much out of the content. There is a section where Sandy talks about how if we look at our daily lives, things look out of balance, but if we look at a weekly picture, we’ll realize that things aren’t so bad.

There’s also a section where she discusses how she accepts the busy seasons in her life but plans around them. For example, when she has had a few days in a row of dealing with a lot of people, she will plan a bit of an introvert day to make sure that area of herself remains balanced.

I can’t wait to dig into this and start realigning myself for the good of everyone around me!

Sandy has created great resources for her new book, including this book trailer :

She also offers a sample chapter so anyone who isn’t sure if this is the study for them can read a little more before committing to buying it. Check out the sample chapter here.

Sandy is starting a virtual group on Facebook on September 25. It does cost $10 to join it, but I think it will be a good investment when it’s tied into the book and led by the author!

Is achieving balance a myth? It sure is, and I can’t wait to drop the balancing act and regain some sanity!

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Let me know if you’re joining the Facebook group on the 25th, or if you would like to meet locally to discuss the possibilities of a study, just let me know!