You can do anything, but you can’t do everything

I am worn out.

I wanted to start this post with a fun story about to-do lists or all of the things that women have to do in a day, but everything I wrote kept falling flat. I would reach a certain point and try to transition into talking about my main points, and the words just would stop.

So, I took that as a sign that I need to be real with everyone.

I have been struggling lately. This is a really busy time for me, and I feel a little bit overwhelmed and like I am starting not to be able to handle everything. I feel off-kilter and frazzled. And when I’m frazzled, do you know who suffers? It’s not the relative strangers and acquaintances I encounter daily.

It’s my husband.

It’s my daughter.

It’s my family.

It’s me.

I have determined one big reason why I am burnt out : I want to “do it all.”

I want to be a great wife, a fabulous mother (to the human and non-human children), a hard-working employee, a successful writer, in fantastic shape, have a spotless house, read often, cook real meals for my family, have a daily quiet time, volunteer more, clean up my blog and website, and sleep more, among other things.

Just reading that makes me tired.

So, it’s time to embrace a new life motto : I can do anything, but I can’t do everything. I have to have balance.

I recently had the chance to part of a book launch team for Finding Your Balance: An 11-Lesson Bible Study“>Finding Your Balance: An 11-Lesson Bible Study by Sandy Cooper.

(Yes, I was on two book launch teams at the same time – this one and Finish. Add that to the list above…)

I started reading the digital copy I received, and I didn’t get too far into it before I jumped online and ordered it. If you know me, then you know I don’t really buy books, but I just needed to own this one.

I haven’t read much of the book yet, and I haven’t started using it as a Bible study yet, but I’ve already gotten so much out of the content. There is a section where Sandy talks about how if we look at our daily lives, things look out of balance, but if we look at a weekly picture, we’ll realize that things aren’t so bad.

There’s also a section where she discusses how she accepts the busy seasons in her life but plans around them. For example, when she has had a few days in a row of dealing with a lot of people, she will plan a bit of an introvert day to make sure that area of herself remains balanced.

I can’t wait to dig into this and start realigning myself for the good of everyone around me!

Sandy has created great resources for her new book, including this book trailer :

She also offers a sample chapter so anyone who isn’t sure if this is the study for them can read a little more before committing to buying it. Check out the sample chapter here.

Sandy is starting a virtual group on Facebook on September 25. It does cost $10 to join it, but I think it will be a good investment when it’s tied into the book and led by the author!

Is achieving balance a myth? It sure is, and I can’t wait to drop the balancing act and regain some sanity!

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Let me know if you’re joining the Facebook group on the 25th, or if you would like to meet locally to discuss the possibilities of a study, just let me know!

Enjoy Your Journey

Today was the first day of school in my county. My Facebook and Instagram feeds were filled with posts and pictures that all shared a common theme : “I can’t believe how fast time is going.”

Since Charlotte had been pretty restless all night and decided to give us a 4:30 AM wake up call, it seems so hard for me to think about time going quickly, but I know it does. She is learning new skills daily and approaching milestones that seemed like far away concepts just a few days ago.

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This is what a rough morning looks like…

Part of me wishes that she would stay little; she’s so sweet and affectionate (when she wants to be!), and it’s fun watching her interact with the world around her. However, the bigger part of me is looking forward to seeing her grow and develop as a person. I’m curious to see what her personality will be like. I want to be able to talk to her and have her respond back to me with more than just a couple of words or random babble. And, let’s be real here, I really, really, really look forward to the days when her sleep is more consistent (when she’s about, what, 20 or 25? Ha!).

But, I’m not going to wish this time away. I’m going to attempt to savor every moment – good and bad. We are not having more children so every phase we go through is the first and last time we will experience those things as parents. I’m going to work on enjoying the journey because before I know it, we’ll be sending out high school graduation invitations, and I’ll be trying to remember what life was like when she was little. Enjoy your journey. Even the not-so-enjoyable parts have a purpose, and one day, they will be what you miss.

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Charlotte’s Twelve Month Update

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And just like that, our baby is a year old! People tell you how fast it flies by, but you can’t really understand it until you’ve lived it!

Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches
at twelve months: 28.5 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz
at twelve months: 18 lb 8 oz

Clothing Size: 9 months and up!

Milestones:
– She turned one. That seems like the biggest milestone of all!

Likes: Playing with her toys, snuggling with mama in the bed, seeing her friends at Circletime 😉

Dislikes: Being told no! I think we’re in trouble…

Sleep: Pretty decent for the most part. She takes a couple of naps a day that are hit or miss but usually sleeps through the night. I almost always wake up with a foot in my face though!

Best Moment: Seeing her eat her big cupcake on her birthday! It was so cute!!

Worst Moment: Getting her one-year vaccines and having an upset stomach at her doctor appointment yesterday. I know that’s past her twelve-month mark, but it was rough!

Eating: Anything we put in front of her! I always know when she doesn’t feel well because she doesn’t want to eat!

Mommy Update: I really am starting to enjoy motherhood. The first few months were really tough, and a lot of the time, I wondered if I was cut out for it. I know I’ll wonder that many, many more times during her lifetime, but I feel like we’ve gotten to know each other better, and I’m trying to trust my instincts more often.

Overall: This is my last monthly update. I thought about doing them for the next couple of years, but I think I’ll close the door on these and do something else fun on here as she grows up. I hope that she’ll read these someday and know how much her dad and I love her!

We love you, our strong, brave, smart, beautiful, baby girl!

Charlotte’s Eleven Month Update

So how about that nearly 3 week absence, huh? My husband has a new job with a different schedule than his last couple of jobs, so I’ve been working on new life routines, and this fell to the wayside. But, now I’m back…back again…Amber’s back…tell a friend (bonus points if you know what song that’s from…)

Now, let’s move on to the important stuff – Charlotte!

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Google Photos automatically created this collage. I think it gives her a bit of a sullen, bored teenager look, don’t you think?

Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz

Clothing Size: 9 months and up!

Milestones:
– We’re on tooth watch, 2017. It feels like she’s been teething for about 40 years, but none of them have popped through yet. It will be a glorious day when the first one does. Plus, if she realizes that teeth = getting to try more foods, then she’ll be a happy girl!

-She moved backwards some when she was on her stomach/hands and knees. It wasn’t quite crawling, but it was progress!

-I think she can say “my mama”. At least, that’s what it sounds like to me!

-She is pretty decent at picking up foods and feeding herself and is getting better at using her spoon. She also got some of her puffs out of the container one day when I held it up to her. Of course, that obviously means she’s a super genius! 😉

Likes: Going places (such a little charmer!), sitting in her pack and play and watching the weather while eating snacks (that’s my girl!), and pulling Koopa’s ears!

Dislikes: Not being allowed to chew on my phone, when we don’t give her back the things she throws on the floor (like spoons and napkins), scrambled eggs – my parents have fed them to her a couple of times and said that she didn’t enjoy them at all. I think this is the only food she hasn’t loved!

Sleep: Still co-sleeping and still (mostly) sticking to a routine. Most of the time, she sleeps through the night, but sometimes girlie needs a midnight snack…and not just a bottle!

Best Moment: There have been a few times when she has pulled me near her to give me a kiss or snuggle up next to me, and I have just completely melted!

Worst Moment: We’ve had a couple of middle-of-the-night wakeups that have gone from “hmm, she’s a little upset” to “whoa, she’s having a complete meltdown.” I think the incoming tooth is really bothering her, and then once she wakes up, she’ll realize that she’s hungry and super tired. I know that she can’t really communicate what’s wrong yet, so that makes things even tougher!

Eating: She is starting to like “real food” more than her baby food. She’ll still eat baby food most of the time, but she also wants something that she can pick up with her fingers and feed herself with. She’s also becoming good at stealing things off our plates!

Mommy Update: I’m feeling more confident as a mom, especially as I’m starting to focus more on just being in whatever moment we’re in and enjoying it. These 11 months have flown by, so I want to make sure I’m soaking everything in as much as possible!

Overall: She has such a great personality and is really starting to develop her own little quirks and habits. It’s been so fun seeing her grow and become more of her own little person!

We love you, baby girl!

Charlotte’s Ten Month Update

Charlotte’s Ten Month Update

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Height:

at birth: 20 inches.
at one month: 21 inches
at three months: 23.5 inches
at four months: 24.5 inches
at six months: 26 inches
at nine months: 27 inches

Weight:
at birth: 6 lb 5 oz
at one month: 7 lb 11 oz
at three months: 10 lb 4 oz
at six months: 14 lb 10 oz
at nine months: 17 lb 3 oz

Clothing Size: Pretty much exclusively 6 months and up. I accidentally put a 3-6 month onesie on her the other day, and her little arms looked like they were losing their circulation! Needless to say we took that one off pretty quickly and tossed it into the consignment bin!

Milestones:
– Doing so much better with sitting up by herself!

-She can go backwards in her walker like a champ!

-She seems to be talking more and saying more words, like “hiiiii” (she always drags it out like that!)

Likes: Blowing spit bubbles, grabbing things, being tossed into the air

Dislikes: Falling asleep by herself, staying in bed by herself, being put down by herself, sense a pattern here?

Sleep: We’re really getting good with our routine and making sure she’s in bed within a certain time frame. We’re still co-sleeping, and sometimes I’m okay with that (when she’s snuggly and sweet) and sometimes I’m very, very, very ready to do some sleep training (when she’s pulling my hair to wake me up).

Best Moment: Honestly, nothing stands out to me here. She’s such a happy girl, and I’m enjoying seeing her learn new things!

Worst Moment: Nothing stands out to me here either! Phew!

Eating: Everything she can get her hands on – both food and non-food! She loves peanut butter (like her doggie brother!), and there’s only been a handful of things that she hasn’t attacked with enthusiasm.

Mommy Update: I’m working on not being so hard on myself, and some days I am succeeding. I’m working more on routines, plus I’ve asked for help in some weak areas in my life, so I hope that helps me climb out of this pit of meh.

Overall: It’s crazy to think that we’re quickly approaching her first birthday! I look at updates from last year, and I was so nervous about becoming a mom, so curious about what she would be like, and so anxious about how our life was about to change. Now it feels like she’s always been a part of our family!

We love you, baby girl!