TBB Asks : Relationships

Happy Monday, everyone! I’m running late on this post because we had such a nice weekend that I spent more time outside than at the computer!

February is the month of love, so this month’s TBB Asks post is all about relationships!

1. Who is your oldest friend/how did you meet? If we’re talking a friend who is in my family, then I would say it’s definitely my mom, and we all know how she and I met! 😉 If it’s a non-relative, then it’s my friend Jen! She and I have known each other half of our lives now (that’s right, isn’t it, Jen?). We knew of each other before we knew each other since her mom and my grandma worked together, but we didn’t officially meet until our freshman year of college when we had such lovely classes as Honors Critical Thinking (blah) and Intro to Computers (hahahaha).

2. Tell us about your circle of support. Who are your people? I have a small circle because I don’t like to rely on people or ask for help a lot. I know, I know. My husband is definitely the number one person in my circle. He knows how to get me out of a funky mood or give me a kick in the butt when I need one! My other people are my mom and our friend Ashli. We have a massive group text going and try to get together monthly. They know all of the good and bad things going on and can help me get through both types of situations!

3. How did you meet your partner? I met him at a college and career singles event at the church we both used to attend. Check out our full “how we met” story here!

4. How is Valentine’s Day celebrated in your home? We usually don’t really celebrate because we’re boring. However, now that Charlotte is getting a little older and more aware of holidays, I feel like I need to hop on Pinterest and start thinking of some cute ways to celebrate!

5. What is your love language? Acts of Service, which is fitting because Will is really great about doing things around the house and taking care of things I put off or don’t want to do (like taking my car through emissions! I really don’t like doing that!).

6. Do you prefer receiving flowers or chocolates? The part of me that’s not trying to eat healthier says chocolates, but the part of me that is trying to lose weight reluctantly says flowers!

7. What is the most meaningful gift you have ever received or have given? It wasn’t for Valentine’s Day, but after we found out Charlotte was a girl and it looked like the pregnancy was healthy and viable, Will got me a couple of beads for my Pandora bracelet. One bead was a little blue stone to represent our first pregnancy since we called that baby our blueberry. The other bead was a little pink stone to represent Charlotte. I wear them on opposite ends of my bracelet to represent both of my kids! 💕

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5 Tough Truths About Marriage

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Amber note: I originally published this post in March 2014, but since it’s #TBT, I wanted to share it again!

Lego Bride and Groom

A good friend of mine became engaged a few months ago. She and I happen to also work together, so one day before Christmas when it was really slow in the ‘brary, she asked me if there was anything about marriage that has turned out to be more difficult than I thought it would be. We’ve only been married for a year now (minus three days ha ha), so I don’t consider myself any type of expert, but here were some of the things I thought of:

1. It’s tough to live with a guy:

As some of you may know, I lived at home until marriage, so I technically lived with two guys. However, there’s a big difference between living with family and your husband! My husband is fantastic, but there are things that he doesn’t understand about me and that I don’t understand about him. Some guy behaviors are mystifying to me (how do you shower and get ready so quickly?!?). There are also times that I just need to blab on and on about something, and he responds differently than some of my female friends who will let me over-analyze everything. I could go on and on about the differences between men and women, but I think most of you know them by now and could chime in here also!

2. It’s tough to strike a balance between being comfortable and still trying to be attractive to your husband:

I own footie pajamas. I’m not proud of that fact, but they’re warm and comfortable, and sometimes a lady just likes to wear an adult onesie. However, they’re not the most flattering sleepwear that I own. I also like mismatched pajamas, raggedy sweats, and holiday themed socks. I’m lucky I’m cute and can get away with that kind of casual wardrobe. 😉 Although I know my husband loves me for who I am and not what I’m wearing, I do sometimes think that I need to have better “loungewear,” Then again, with what we keep the thermostat on in the winter, he’s lucky that my Snuggie has only made a handful of appearances over the last year!

3. It’s tough to think of things to cook for dinner:

This one may not seem like a big deal, but it’s really hit me lately, especially as I’ve been working on cleaning up my diet. I know there are thousands menu planning and recipe websites around, but I don’t always think about those when I’m standing in the kitchen at 5:30 trying to figure out what to start making. I’m happy with eating an assortment of whatever I can throw together, but some people like actual food for dinner. This may vary for others, but it’s been a real struggle for me!

4. It’s tough to adjust to each other’s routines, quirks, and habits:

Everyone has bad habits and quirks. For example, I like to just set my stuff down wherever there’s a little bit of room and worry about putting it away “later.” My husband is super easygoing and doesn’t let a lot of my habits bother him, but I’m sure it’s been difficult for him to adjust to some of the things I do, just like it’s been difficult for me to adjust to some of the things he does. A lot of people told me before I got married to “pick my battles.” That’s one piece of advice I’ll definitely pass on to anyone who’s planning to get married. Things can get frustrating, but it’s much better to let the small stuff slide.

5. It’s tough to share a bed:

I’m a sprawler, and I have a bad habit of being hot, then cold, then hot, and so on. Someone I share a bed with sometimes steals covers whenever I’ve kicked them off of me. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just have twin beds that we could push together or apart as the need arises!

Even with these “tough” challenges, I wouldn’t trade our marriage for anything in the world. It’s been a great experience so far, and even when there are difficult times, it’s nice to know that I have a partner who will love and support me no matter what. Also, I can always just make grilled cheese for his dinner, and he’s happy. You can’t buy that kind of love, ladies and gentlemen.

#Achieve2017 : February

Argh! I meant to have this post up last Sunday, but life happened, including a death in my husband’s family, so I’m behind on everything (except for Wednesday’s Currently post since it’s pretty short and sweet).

Before I talk about February’s challenge, let’s recap January’s challenge, which was no restaurants or coffee shops. So, did I make it? Sadly, the answer is almost but not quite. There were a couple of stumbles, particularly after a difficult week for our family, but overall we did better than usual, so I’m giving us a B+ for January.

Now, without further adieu, February’s challenge is…

Improving Relationships!


February is the month of love, but that doesn’t necessarily have to only mean romantic love. It can also encompass the love you have for yourself, family, friends, and yourself, as well as a general love of doing nice things for strangers. Plus, since we’re in kind of a funky time in the United States where it’s so easy to get into arguments about things, I thought a little extra love couldn’t hurt anything!

Since it’s already February 5, you have a couple of options if you’d like to participate in this challenge : A. Just pick 23 items from the list instead of doing all 28, or B. Continue this challenge into March and have a couple of days with overlapping challenges after the March challenge starts. You could also do a couple of overlapping days in February to finish by the next challenge. Look at all of these options!

Here is my relationship improvement list. If you’re not married or dating someone or in a romantic relationship, replace all references of spouse with a friend or family member. I also didn’t include anything to build relationships with children because our child is still a little too young to do these things for, but feel free to mix in your child(ren) for some of these items!

  1. Compliment your spouse publicly
  2. Send a note to a friend
  3. Email or message someone you haven’t talked to in a while
  4. Buy your mom or dad a coffee
  5. Do a chore that your spouse hates to do
  6. Call your grandparents
  7. Don’t say negative things about anyone for an entire day
  8. Spend a couple of hours by yourself doing something you wouldn’t usually do
  9. Go on or plan an unusual date with your spouse
  10. Introduce yourself to one of your neighbors if you don’t know any of them
  11. Tell someone you admire them or something about them
  12. Send out old school paper valentines to friends
  13. Tip someone who accepts them but who you normally don’t tip
  14. Go to dinner with your sibling(s)
  15. Bring your coworkers a Valentine’s Day treat
  16. Have a conversation with someone you see every day but don’t really know
  17. Let someone in front of you in line
  18. Send your future self an encouraging note (use futureme.org to schedule it)
  19. Make your family’s favorite dinner
  20. Hang out with someone you haven’t seen in a while
  21. Let someone merge at the last second, even when it annoys you to no end
  22. Comment on someone’s blog post (you’re welcome to do that here hahaha)
  23. Don’t write that brilliant comeback to that person’s political post. Seriously.
  24. Ask your coworkers if there’s anything you can to do help them with projects
  25. Send a dumb meme to your sibling
  26. Let your spouse sleep in one morning
  27. Help someone out at the grocery store who has his/her hands full
  28. Compliment a stranger

There you have it! I’ll edit this post and mark items out as I complete them. If any of you participate in part or all of this month’s challenge, let me know by using #Achieve2017 on social media or use the button above to share on your blog, social media accounts, etc. Also, look for March’s challenge earlier than on March 5!